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5 Things Every Employee Should Ask Their CEO

Recently, on my YouTube show, my editor in chief Steve Unwin asked me a question that I thought was very poignant and interesting. Even more so than that, it felt daring. He wasn’t nervous to ask it. And it got me thinking about all the questions I’ve been asked as CEO of my company VaynerMedia. Some have really provoked me to think. Some have been filled with fluff. But overall, I realized that knowing what to ask if you are ever presented with the opportunity is incredibly valuable. So I thought I would put together this list of five questions I think every employee should ask their CEO in their life.

1. “What is your finish line?”

पहला कदम ही इसान को आखिरी कदम तक लेकर जाता है

अपने समय के महान वैज्ञानिक थॉमस बहुत ही मेहनती इंसान थे।बचपन में उन्हें यह कहकर स्कूल से निकाल दिया गया कि वह मंद बुद्धि बालक है। उसी थॉमस एडिसन ने कई महत्वपूर्ण आविष्कार किए जिसमें से बिजली का बल्ब प्रमुख है।उन्होंने बल्ब का आविष्कार करने के लिए हजारों बार प्रयोग किए थे।तब जाकर उन्हें सफलता मिली थी।एक बार जब वह बल्ब बनाने के लिए कोई प्रयोग कर रहे थे। तभी एक व्यक्ति ने उनसे पूछा आपने करीब एक हजार प्रयोग किए,लेकिन आपके सारे प्रयोग असफल रहे। साथ ही, आपकी मेहनत बेकार हो गई

एडिसन ने कहा मैं सोचता हूं कि मेरे एक हजार प्रयोग असफल हुए है। मेरी मेह। क्या आपको दुःख नहीं होता है।नत बेकार नहीं गई, क्योंकि मैंने एक हजार प्रयोग करके यह पता लगाया है कि इन एक हजार तरीकों से बल्ब नहीं बनाया जा सकता।

Would you let your kid play with pregnant dolls?

Barbie's proportions have drawn flak for playing with girls' body image. But on the other end of the spectrum are toys that may be too close to reality.

Sample this: in September this year, American Nickolay Lamm, creator of the "realistic" Lammily doll with her average, round body and even acne stickers, added period accessories to teach young girls about menstruation. The 'Period Party' accessory pack for Lammily now includes pad and liner stickers meant to fit in doll-sized underwear, a calendar and dot stickers to keep track of a menstruation cycle, and an informational pamphlet.

10 inspiring quotes to move on after a break-up

We all know how bad break-ups can be and no matter how much you want, you can never end a relationship amicably. So, here are our 10 best quotes to help you realise that it's not that difficult to move on...

1. "Watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love. But rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person, how beautiful it will be when the right person comes along."

― Nicholas Sparks, author of Dear John

2. "Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."
― M. Kathleen Casey, Canadian politician

3. "I will not try to convince you to love me, to respect me, to commit to me. I deserve better than that; I AM BETTER THAN THAT...Goodbye."
― Steve Maraboli, author of Life, the Truth and Being Free

4. "Hold on to the thought that no emotion lasts forever, no matter how wonderful or how terrible the emotion may be. The tears may last a little longer than you would like, but it will get better. I promise."
― Osayi Osar-Emokpae, author of Because You Deserve Love

5. "I thought I lost something this summer, but I just realized, I never needed it."
― Nicole Christie, author of Falling for the Ghost of You

6. "But thinking never took away tears. Only time did."
― Allan Folsom, author of The Day After Tomorrow

7. "Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing itself at its most brilliant."
― Paulo Coelho, author of The Alchemist

8. "We must be willing to let go of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us."
― Joseph Campbell, writer of The Hero with a Thousand Faces

9. "Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift"?
― Mary Oliver, poet of American Primitive

10. "Love arrives exactly when love is supposed to,
And love leaves exactly when love must.
When love arrives, say, "Welcome. Make yourself comfortable."
If love leaves, ask her to leave the door open behind her.
Turn off the music, listen to the quiet, whisper,
"Thank you for stopping by.""
― Sarah Kay and Phil Kaye, poets and co-founders of Project VOICE

(Compiled by Pallavi Bansal)

SOURCE - TOI

इन कारणों से नहीं मिल पाती है सफलता

अक्सर लोग अपनी ताकत को लेकर आशंकित रहते हैं। हम जब अपने आप पर, अपनी शक्ति पर शंका करने लगते हैं तो यहीं से हमारी असफलता की शुरुआत हो जाती है। 'विजय हमेशा आत्मविश्वास से हासिल होती है।' अगर हमें खुद पर विश्वास नहीं हो तो छोटी-छोटी समस्याओं से ही हम घबरा जाएंगे और कभी जीत हासिल नहीं कर पाएंगे। इस बात को श्रीरामचरित मानस के एक प्रसंग से समझ सकते हैं...

अपनी शक्ति पर भरोसा रखना बहुत जरूरी है

श्रीरामचरित मानस के एक प्रसंग में जब भगवान श्रीराम के साथ वानर सेना समुद्र के किनारे तक पहुंच गई, तब यह विचार किया जाने लगा कि समुद्र को कैसे पार किया जाए। उसी समय लंका में भी भावी युद्ध को लेकर चर्चा चल रही थी। रावण ने जब इस संबंध में अपने मंत्रियों से राय मांगी तो लगभग सभी मंत्रियों ने कहा कि जब देवताओं और दानवों को जीतने में कोई खास मेहनत नहीं करनी पड़ी तो मनुष्यों और वानरों से क्या डरना!

उस समय विभीषण ने रावण को बहुत समझाया कि श्रीराम से संधि कर लेनी चाहिए और सीता को आदर सहित श्रीराम को लौटा दिया जाना चाहिए। इससे युद्ध से बचा जा सकता है। विभीषण का मानना था कि श्रीराम से युद्ध करने पर राक्षस कुल का विनाश हो जाएगा। लेकिन विभीषण की बात सुनकर रावण को क्रोध आ गया और उसने विभीषण को लात मारकर लंका से निकाल दिया। इसके बाद विभीषण श्रीराम की शरण में पहुंचे। विभीषण को देखकर वानर सेना में खलबली मच गई। सुग्रीव ने श्रीराम को सुझाव दिया कि विभीषण रावण का छोटा भाई है, इसलिए इसे बंदी बना लेना चाहिए। सुग्रीव ने कहा कि हो सकता है, वह हमारी सेना का भेद लेने आया हो। इस पर श्रीराम ने सुग्रीव को जवाब दिया कि हमें अपनी ताकत और सामर्थ्य पर पूरा भरोसा है। विभीषण शरण लेने आया है, इसलिए उसे बंदी बनाना उचित नहीं होगा। अगर वह भेद लेने आया है, तो भी हम पर कोई संकट नहीं है। हमारी सेना का भेद लेकर भी वह कुछ नहीं कर सकेगा। इससे हमारा बल कम नहीं होगा। दुनिया में जितने भी राक्षस हैं, उन्हें अकेले लक्ष्मण ही क्षण भर में खत्म कर सकते हैं। इसलिए हमें विभीषण से डरना नहीं चाहिए, बल्कि उससे बात करनी चाहिए।

इस प्रसंग में यही बताया गया है कि व्यक्ति को अपनी शक्ति पर पूरा भरोसा होना चाहिए। इसी भरोसे के बल पर ही जीत हासिल की जा सकती है।
SOURCE - BHASKER

काम करते समय ध्यान रखनी चाहिए ये बातें

ज्यादातर लोग एक वक्त पर कई काम करते हैं। इससे जिंदगी की गति तेज़ लगती है, लेकिन दिमाग इन चीज़ों को जल्दी प्रोसेस नहीं कर पाता है। कुछ लोग ऐसे हैं जो काम को निजी जीवन से अलग नहीं कर पाते हैं। इससे दिमाग हमेशा काम में ही उलझा रहता है। इसका एक ही हल है।

बिज़ी वर्क लाइफ के प्रेशर और डिमांड को मैनेज करने से सकारात्मक नतीजे मिलेंगे। ऐसा करना आसान नहीं है, लेकिन इन टिप्स को फॉलो करने से फायदा होगा...

1. खेल खेलने से फायदा

हफ्ते में कम से कम 5 दिन कोई स्पोर्ट खेलिए या 30 मिनट एक्सरसाइज़ करिए। क्योंकि एक्सरसाइज़ से बेहतर कोई तरीका नहीं है स्ट्रैस कम करने के लिए। इसके अलावा अच्छा खाइए, ईर्ष्या की भावना न आने दीजिए।

2. रुटीन बनाना जरूरी

सुबह उठते ही स्मार्टफोन उठाकर ईमेल चैक करने की जरूरत नहीं है। घर और काम को अलग करने के लिए एक रुटीन बनाएं। घर पर हैं तो ऐसे काम करिए जो इंटरेस्ट के हैं। जैसे अखबार पढ़ना, गार्डनिंग करना या कोई स्पोर्ट खेलना आदि। ऑफिस में भी पूरा दिन ईमेल चैक करने की जरूरत नहीं है। एक वक्त निर्धारित करिए जब आप ईमेल्स चैक करेंगे।

3. दोस्त बनाएं

ऑफिस में कुछ दोस्त हैं तो अच्छा है। उनके साथ गॉसिप सेशन बनाएं। ऐसा काम के दौरान न करें, काम पूरा होने के बाद करें। सेशन में अपनी समस्याओं की चर्चा करिए। इसी तरह से ऑफिस के लोगों के साथ बाहर जाने से भी तनाव कम होगा।

4. मजबूत वर्किंग रिलेशन

बॉस के साथ अच्छा वर्किंग रिलेशन जरूरी है। कई बार बॉस के साथ कम्युनिकेशन गैप होने के कारण तनाव बढ़ने लगता है। कई बॉस अच्छे होते हैं, लेकिन एक बुरे बॉस के साथ काम करना गलत साबित होगा। जबकि अच्छे बॉस के साथ कोई बोरिंग जॉब भी इंटरेस्टिंग लगेगी।

5. इंस्पिरेशनल कोट से मदद

वर्क स्ट्रैस को कम करने के लिए कंप्यूटर स्क्रीन पर या सामने कहीं भी कोई इंटरेस्टिंग-इंस्पिरेशनल कोट लगाएं, जिसे पढ़कर अच्छा महसूस हो और ताकत भी मिले।

SOURCE - BHASKER

शादी के बाद इन 7 बातों को कभी भी भूलना नहीं चाहिए

विवाह पति-पत्नी के बीच का एक ऐसा धर्म संबंध जो कर्तव्य और पवित्रता पर आधारित होता है। यह एक वैज्ञानिक तथ्य है कि शारीरिक, मानसिक और आध्यात्मिक स्तरों पर स्त्री और पुरुष दोनों ही अधूरे होते हैं। स्त्री और पुरुष के मिलन से ही ये अधूरापन दूर होता है। विवाह जिन बातों पर हमेशा टिका रहता है, उनमें से सात मुख्य बातें यहां जानिए...

पहली बात है संयम

संयम यानी समय-यमय पर उठने वाली मानसिक उत्तेजनाओं जैसे- कामवासना, गुस्सा, लालच, अहंकार तथा मोह आदि पर नियंत्रण रखना। श्रीराम और सीता ने अपना पूरा वैवाहिक जीवन बहुत ही संयम और प्रेम के साथ व्यतीत किया था। वे कभी भी मानसिक या शारीरिक रूप से अनियंत्रित नहीं हुए।

दूसरी बात है संतुष्टि

संतुष्टि यानी एक-दूसरे के साथ रहते हुए समय और परिस्थिति के अनुसार जो भी सुख-सुविधा मिल जाए, उसी में संतोष करना। श्रीराम और सीता दोनों एक-दूसरे से पूरी तरह संतुष्ट थे। कभी भी श्रीराम ने सीता में या सीता ने श्रीराम में कोई कमी नहीं दे

तीसरी बात है संतान

वैवाहिक जीवन में संतान का भी महत्वपूर्ण स्थान होता है। पति-पत्नी के बीच के संबंधों को मधुर और मजबूत बनाने में बच्चों की भी भूमिका रहती है। श्रीराम और सीता के बीच वनवास को खत्म करने और सीता को पवित्र साबित करने में उनके बच्चों लव और कुश ने बहुत महत्वपूर्ण भूमिका निभाई थी।

चौथी बात है संवेदनशीलता

पति-पत्नी के रूप में एक-दूसरे की भावनाओं का समझना और उनकी कद्र करना चाहिए। श्रीराम और सीता के बीच संवेदनाओं का गहरा रिश्ता था। दोनों बिना कहे-सुने ही एक-दूसरे के मन की बात समझ जाते थे।

पांचवीं बात है संकल्प

पति-पत्नी के रूप में अपने धर्म संबंध को अच्छी तरह निभाने के लिए कर्तव्य को संकल्प लेकर पूरा करना चाहिए।

छठी बात है शारीरिक, आर्थिक और मानसिक मजबूती

वैवाहिक जीवन को सफलता और खुशहाली से भरा-पूरा बनाने के लिए पति-पत्नी दोनों का शारीरिक, आर्थिक और मानसिक रूप से मजबूत होना बहुत ही आवश्यक है।

सातवीं बात है समर्पण

वैवाहिक जीवन में पति-पत्नी का एक दूसरे के प्रति पूरा समर्पण और त्याग होना भी आवश्यक है। एक-दूसरे की खातिर अपनी कुछ इच्छाओं और आवश्यकताओं को त्याग देना या समझौता कर लेना रिश्तों को मधुर बनाए रखने के लिए जरूरी होता है।

SOURCE - BHASKER

5 essential skills today's employers want

Apart from relevant, organisations are now looking at hiring graduates with people skills and an aptitude for leadership

In a competitive job market, a degree that highlights your core competencies and skills is not enough to get you a job. Employers are now looking for candidates with not only the right attitude, but also the right aptitude while hiring. Here are some of the essential skills that fresh graduates will need to cultivate to secure a job:

Communication skills: 

The most significant step towards getting through the interview process is to polish your communication skills, both written and verbal. This is the best way to stand out in the crowded candidate market and it also aids in building a strong professional network.

Aptitude for leadership: 

It is not just the academic record and domain expertise that matter these days, but also your proficiency to be a leader that companies look out for. Not everyone can master this skill; however, one can work on building their inherent leadership qualities by taking initiatives and responsibility.

Being a people's person and a team player: 

Good interpersonal skills are a key to securing your dream job. Having this skill reflects that you are sociable and can work harmoniously with others. Interviewers will most likely test your ability of being a team player through questions relating to real-life scenarios . Some interviewers give a lot of importance to the extra-curricular abilities of the interviewee - excellence in sports, participation in student organization activities, community assistance roles with NGOs, etc - to judge the individual's ability to work in teams and inspire innovative ideas.

Problem solving and analytical skills:

Impromptu thinking and problem solving skills are the qualities that prospective employers look for in candidates. So it is essential to build on these capabilities and flaunt them when you present yourself in the job market as this will help you gain bonus points.

Open to learning and being proactive:

It is vital for a candidate to come across as independent and not someone who needs to be pushed for a task to be completed. In addition to this, out-of-the-box thinking and innovative ideas can get you the competitive corporate advantage. Interviewers will also try to gauge if a candidate is open to maintaining a continuous learning curve to re-skill themselves in a dynamic workplace and stay ahead.

Interviewers are impressed not with how much you know, but with how well you can convince the opposite person to think and accept your point of view. By demonstrating the right qualities and by marketing yourself efficiently, you can certainly land your first big career break!

By Moorthy K Uppaluri (The author is CEO, Randstad India) - As told to Ruchi Chopda

SOURCE - TOI

7 Common Problems Faced By Single Ladies

Our society is very prejudiced towards single ladies. Even in developed countries women are thought to be the second fiddle to men. It is believed that every woman needs a man and any woman that doesn’t have a man must spend most of her time and energy in searching for one. That’s what all romcoms teach us. Not only is this being sexist, but it is also just stupid to hold such a view. Still most people, both men and women, believe that there is nothing worse than a single lady in her 30s. Due to this attitude single ladies face many problems like…..

1. Spinster Witch or Cat Lady:

The worst problem is the way society looks at single women. Any woman who is into her 30s and is still single is looked at weirdly by everyone. Two stereotypical images come to mind; that of the spinster witch, manipulating people to find a mate or that of the cat lady with a hundred cats. So for your own sake, if you are a single woman, don’t get too many cats.

2. The Ticking Clock:

One serious problem faced by single women is that their clock to have babies starts to run out as they get older. Most women do want children even if they don’t want to get married. This puts a pressure on the women to find a mate as soon as possible or let go of the dream to have kids. Of course there are other options such as sperm donation and adoption that many single women have taken up.

3 Safety Issues:

No matter how developed your country, women are not safe on their own. It’s a shameful fact for the men of this world to accept but it also needs to be accepted by single women that they need to be extra careful about their safety. You can call me a sexist but it is true that this is a man’s world. Even married women aren’t completely safe but at least they have a man to protect them. Single women need to be extra careful and train in self defense and it is always helpful if their circle of friends have some trustworthy men.

4. Financial Issues:

This problem is not so much a sexist problem but one faced by single women and men the world over. The economy has been so rough that it is hard for single people to survive while couples find it easier as two people bring home a salary. If one of them gets fired the other can provide for the time being but a single person has nowhere to go if they get fired. This problem is faced by all single people and single women need to be aware of it too and prepare accordingly.

5. Prejudice at Work:

What can make the above problem even worse for women is that they still face prejudice at work. This prejudice is faced by all women but even more so by single women. Strong independent single women scare men and this shows up when the boss has to hand out promotions or decide who to let go. Married women are no better off here either but finally glass ceilings are shattering all over the world and slowly we are seeing things improve for women at the work place.

6. Men Hitting on You Constantly:

One annoying problem that single women face is that men will hit on you wherever you go. Whenever men see single women they take a chance at it. Older single women attract the wrong kind of men who think that since the woman is older and still single, she must not be looking for anything more than a one night stand. It’s hard for single women in their 30s to find a decent guy who won’t be scared off by their independence.

7. Parents Pressuring You to Get Married:

Single women have to face the relentless pressure of their parents, forcing them to get married. The older generation doesn’t understand how being a single woman is not such a bad thing. This is just an annoying problem and it is best to just ignore it.

Source - topyaps

4 tips to deal with a demanding professional life

Explore the reason

Remember, most people work manic hours by compulsion. If your husband is spending inordinately long hours working, ask him what's prompting him to do so. Explore if he's battling unrealistic deadlines, lacks certain skills or is unable to say no. Once you are able to figure out the real reason, look at addressing it together.

See it as a transition

There are two contexts to this challenge. If his long hours are a recent phenomenon, it could be an impending deadline and may pass. So there's no cause for worry. But if it is something else, a carefully thought out action plan that includes dealing with internal fears, getting more support, building confidence will help him recover his work-life balance. Treat it as a transitional phase, focussing on the solution instead of the problem.

Clarify the expectation

Ask yourself if your husband is aware of your feelings. Share your emotions, without the undertone of blame. Revisit the goals/dreams you had shared earlier. Discuss what you both need to do to achieve them and the way you can support each other in doing so.

Support, don't nag

Nagging will get your partner's back up. And if he worries about friction at home it may be a disincentive to return at a decent time. It's likely that he's frustrated due to his long working hours. Rather, explore ways in which you can be more plesant and supportive.

SOURCE - wonderwoman.intoday

5 things that a lady wants in her date

Most men and women are still trying to crack what works and what doesn't, for the opposite sex. Despite the grand assortment of tips and advice being offered by the Internet, magazines and best friends, we follow our hearts and make our own mistakes. Dating is not for the faint hearted, but when you find 'the one', it's all well worth the madness. 

In the meantime, it helps to know what the opposite sex is thinking...sitting across the table, on a date.

So here are the top 5 things that a lady wants in her date...

1. If you're calling it a date, dress for it!

It's the first opportunity to get to know each other and since both of you have been courageous enough to call it a date, it's definitely a special occasion. A guy who knows what looks good on him and carries it off with modesty and charm, is a huge turn on for any girl.

What a man wears should enhance his personality, not distract from it. It's great if you have biceps worth showing off, but a date is hardly the occasion to flaunt them from under a body hugging t-shirt.

Best to get some advice from a close friend on what to wear, just to be safe. If you don't feel charming, you won't be it!

Needless to say, body odor of the slightest kind is a total deal breaker.

2. Some chivalry would be nice

Getting her a drink, holding that door open and dropping her home, have absolutely nothing to do with a girl's independence. Don't let anyone tell you differently. Of course she can do all that herself! But the charm of being on a date, or even in a relationship for that matter, is to feel cared for. The expectation for chivalry is hard wired into every girl's psyche and it's a great turn on if done moderately and effortlessly. Every door doesn't need to be held open and every chair doesn't need to be pulled out for her. But on a date...absolutely!

3. Say what you mean and mean what you say

A guy with an intellect and humility is a sure shot, guaranteed turn on for any girl. And usually, it takes a girl less than 10 minutes to figure out if the guy across the table has these qualities working in his favour or otherwise. Men who brag about their achievements or the net worth of their father's business, don't stand a chance against those who share their thoughts and are genuinely interested in hearing about their date's. What really helps is if you stick to a language you're comfortable with. Grammatical mistakes and SMS abbreviations in spoken language are hilarious not endearing.

4. Don't be shy

Be generous with compliments and praise. In fact, most women appreciate that quality in men. But the key is to be genuine. That's what makes a man stand out. An honest "I really enjoyed this and would love to see you more" or a "You have a gorgeous smile" is a zillion times better than any pick up line in the world. A guy who speaks his mind and spells out how he wants to take things forward wins hands down, as long as he doesn't enter the creepy zone. Additional brownies for a guy who manages to steer clear of the "Let's be friends" zone and goes straight for the "I want to date you" target.

5. Puhleeezz be yourself

Because when you try to be someone you're not, you're being a clown. Everyone has flaws. Everyone has had moments they're not proud of and most of us don't have smashing looks. Wait a minute...doesn't that put us all in the same boat? It's a big turn on for a girl to see a guy who is confident, sincere and unpretentious. If you don't put on a fake accent, assert yourself unnecessarily over restaurant staff and come dipped in cologne sporting a fake Rado, chances are you'll actually get a smile from the girl across the table. It's not so hard to just be your normal self.

SOURCE - TOI 

Are you a shy guy trying to find a date?

They might be the top-notch guys in their professional fields, but going on a date or even finding a date makes them tongue-tied and extremely nervous. If you fall in this category, there is a friendly advice for you...

Interpret her signals correctly

Women are not going to come up to you and ask for your phone number. That's just not the way it works. But, if you know what to look for, she will give you some subtle signals, which are her way telling you "hey buddy, I'm interested in you, come here and talk to me".

The first thing you need to know is this...

Women don't do ANYTHING by accident. If a woman is located at a certain part of the bar or club there is a reason for it. So, the next time you're out, if you notice a woman in your proximity that wasn't there a second ago there's a good chance it's not an accident and she's interested in you.

Another thing to look for is preening or grooming. When a woman notices a guy she's interested in, she'll often unconsciously fix her hair, grab a glance at herself in the mirror, or fix her clothes in some other way.

Go easy and slow

You can't be a wall flower all night and then when you see the girl you got the hots for, go up and approach her and expect things to go great.

So here's what you do. The next time you're going to be at a venue where there are women you might be interested in, before you even consider talking to them or even looking in their direction, start off by talking to some of the other people around you.

Build your skills

A lot of guys approach a woman with the goal in mind of getting her phone number, or getting a date with her, or making her their next girlfriend.

They see how pretty she is and all sorts of things like this go through their heads and they inevitably psyche themselves out.

They become way too outcome dependent. And worst of all, by doing this, they appear too needy to the women and the game is over before it even begins. When you shift your thinking by changing the outcome that you're looking for women will be able to pick up on it. You won't appear needy and you'll inevitably start to become more attractive.

Handle rejection with grace

Most guys make a woman's response to them mean something about them personally. A woman acts bitchy or cold to them and they make it mean something about them as a man.

When a woman "rejects" you, it actually has nothing to do with you. It wasn't YOU she rejected It was just you're approach. You used the wrong particular approach. it's nothing personal. How could it be she doesn't know you from a hole in the wall, right? So be grateful for her feedback whether positive or negative and never take it personal.

Play a game you can win

Overall, the club and bar scene can be pretty intimidating to pick up women. Women go out to these places, and because they're getting hit on all night and because their friends are around, they're ten times more likely to reject a guy who tries to approach them.

If you know what you're doing... there is no other place to meet women as quickly and as easily as Social Networking sites. There are a few reasons for this: Because her friends aren't around watching her, other guys aren't hitting her and she's in the comfort of her own home she's SO much more receptive to you if you say the right thing to her. There is absolutely ZERO chance of ever encountering a face-to-face rejection.

SOURCE- TOI

सास-बहू की खट्टी-मीठी नोंकझोंक को कुछ इस तरह से बना सकते हैं आसान

जब एक नई बहू ससुराल आती है तो उसके मन में सास के बर्ताव को लेकर डर बना रहता है। सास भी यही सोचती है कि नई बहू से मेरी पटेगी या नहीं। लोगों की नजर में यह रिश्ता बड़ा जटिल है, लेकिन बहू अपनी सास को मां और सास अपनी बहू को बेटी मान लें तो यह रिश्ता काफी प्यारा हो सकता है। इसके संबंध में रिलेशनशिप एक्सपर्ट डॉ रूमी अग्रवाल ने कुछ टिप्स भी दिए...

हक न जताएं

सास अपने बेटे और बहू अपने पति पर बराबर का हक जताती हैं। इस बात से तकरार बढ़ना शुरू हो जाता है।

क्या करे बहू- आपकी सास ने इतने सालों तक आपके पति को पाला है, उसकी हर छोटी-बड़ी जरूरत का पूरा ध्यान रखा है। जैसे आपकी मां आपसे प्यार करती है, वैसे ही सास अपने बेटे (यानी आपके पति) से प्यार करती है। उनका प्यार कम करने का कोशिश न करें।

सास क्या करे- आपकी बहू जिस एक आदमी के लिए अपने माता-पिता और घर को छोड़कर अाई है वह आपका बेटा है। वह उसी के प्यार और सहारे से खुद को नए माहौल में एडजस्ट करेगी। बहू और बेटे को रिश्ता बढ़ाने के लिए स्पेस देना भी बहुत जरूरी है।

दखलंदाजी हो तब

घरेलू कामों को लेकर एक-दूसरे पर नुक्ताचीनी करने या दखलंदाजी होने पर बात बिगड़ती जाती है।

क्या करे बहू

आप जिस परिवार में गई हैं, वह आपके लिए नया है। हो सकता है वहां के नियम-कायदे आपके घर से अलग हों। उन्हें समझें और उनमें ढलने की कोशिश करें। सास के तजुर्बे का लाभ लें। पुरानी आदतें एकदम छूटेंगी नहीं, लेकिन उन पर अड़िग भी न रहें।

सास क्या करे

नई बहू पर एकदम भारी जिम्मेदारियां न थोपें। उसे घर के माहौल को समझने का मौका दें। हो सकता है वह कुछ गलतियां करे, उसे नजरअंदाज करें। आप उसे मां बनकर सिखाएंगी तो वह जल्दी सीख पाएगी। प्यार से किसी को जल्दी अपनाया जा सकता है

जब हो मतभेद

कुछ बातों को लेकर कहासुनी हो जाना भी सामान्य बात है। इस झगड़े के कारणों को जानकर उनमें सुधार करना चाहिए।

क्या करे बहू

अपनी सास के प्रति हमेशा रिसपेक्टफुल बर्ताव करें। मायके में सास की चुगली न करें। सास को अपना नजरिया समझाएं और उनसे उनकी आपत्तियों का कारण भी समझें। किसी बीचवान की मदद लेने के बजाय घर की बात घर पर ही निपटाएं।

सास क्या करे

बहू को अपनी बेटी समझकर माफ कर दें। उसकी बातों को समझें, हो सकता है उसके कहने का तरीका गलत हो, लेकिन उसकी बात तार्किक हो। उससे जैसा व्यवहार करेंगी वह उसी अंदाज में आपको उत्तर देगी। उसमें अपनी बेटी को तलाशें

यह करें

1. रिश्ते में मिठास लाने के लिए एक-दूसरे के साथ समय बिताएंं।
2. घर के कामों में एक- दूसरे की मदद करें दोनों परिवारों की तुलना या आलोचना न करें।
3. एक-दूसरे का सम्मान करें कामों को लेकर एक- दूसरे की प्रशंसा करें।
4. एक-दूसरे को प्रतियोगी बिल्कुल न समझें।

source - bhasker

फर्टिलिटी की समस्या दूर करने के लिए पुरुष खा सकते हैं ये 7 चीजें

शादी से पहले बहुत से पुरुष अपनी आगे की लाइफ को लेकर चिंतित रहते हैं। उनकी ये चिंता सिर्फ फाइनेंशियल ही नहीं, बल्कि फिजिकल भी होती है। उनकी ये समस्या फर्टिलाइजेशन से जुड़ी होती है। उन्हें ये अंदेशा होता है कि बेहतर परफॉर्म कर पाएंगे या नहीं। टेंशन, बिजी शेड्यूल और खराब लाइफस्टाइल के चलते अक्सर उनके दिमाग में ऐसी बातें आती रहती हैं। तो ज्यादा सोचने और घबराने की जरूरत नहीं, बस रोजाना की आदतों में और खासतौर पर खान-पान में बदलाव लाकर इस टेंशन को दूर किया जा सकता है। नाश्ते से लेकर लंच और डिनर में इन फ्रूट्स, स्नैक्स और

21 signs you're mentally stronger than average

(Seaman Blake Midnight/Navy Visual News Service) Mental strength training is just as hard — or harder — than physical training.Mental strength takes a long time to develop. 

It is the daily practice of pushing yourself to grow stronger, maintaining realistic optimism, and setting healthy boundaries. Mentally strong people don't do things like waste time feeling sorry for themselves or give away their power to other people.

How do you know where you fall on the spectrum? We asked psychotherapist Amy Morin, the author of "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do."

Morin shared the following 21 signs you're mentally stronger than average, which we've listed here in her words:

1. You balance emotions with logic.

Mentally strong people understand how their emotions can influence their thinking. In an effort to make the best decisions possible, they balance their emotions with logic.  

2. You choose productive behavior.

While it may be tempting to make excuses, complain about other people, and avoid difficult circumstances, mentally strong people refuse to waste time on unproductive activities. 

3. You feel confident in your ability to adapt to change.

Mentally strong people know that although change is uncomfortable, it's tolerable. They focus their energy on adapting to change, rather than resisting it.

4. You face the fears that hold you back.

While mentally strong people don't need to conquer fears because they have something to prove to others, they do strive to face the fears that hold them back. 

5. You learn from your mistakes.

Mentally strong people don't hide or excuse their mistakes. Instead, they learn from them.

6. You balance self-acceptance with self-improvement.

Mentally strong people accept themselves for who they are, while simultaneously recognizing their need for personal development. 

(Flickr / Joe Van) Be happy when others succeed.7. You genuinely celebrate other people's success.

Mentally strong people cooperate — rather than compete — with those around them. They don't feel as though other people's success somehow diminishes their own achievements.

8. You are comfortable living according to your values.

Mentally strong people make decisions with relative ease because they understand their priorities and they live according to their values. 

9. You focus on sharpening your skills, rather than showing them off.

While some people seek validation from others, mentally strong people are less concerned about gaining recognition. Instead, they're intrinsically motivated to become better. 

10. You live an authentic life.

Mentally strong people are true to themselves. Their words are in line with their behavior.

11. You view life's hardships as opportunities for growth.

While hardship causes some people to grow bitter, mentally strong people let adversity make them better.

12. Your self-worth depends on who you are, not what you achieve.

Mentally strong people feel good about themselves, whether they win or lose.

(Jim Rogash/Stringer/Getty Images) Remember, it's a marathon, not a sprint.

13. You practice delayed gratification.

Mentally strong people view their goals as a marathon, not a sprint. They're willing to tolerate short-term pain when it can provide long-term gain.

14. You bounce back from failure.

Mentally strong people don't view failure as the end of the road. Instead, they use their failed attempts as opportunities to gain knowledge that will increase their chances of success in the future.

15. You're a realistic optimist.

Mentally strong people are able to look for the silver lining and think on the bright side, but they don't allow their optimistic tendencies to blind them to reality.

16. You accept personal responsibility for your choices.

Mentally strong people don't needlessly beat themselves up, but they do accept complete responsibility for their actions. 

17. You express gratitude.

Rather than exclaim they need more, mentally strong people acknowledge they have more than they need.

18. You focus on what you can control.

Mentally strong people are effective and productive in life because they devote their resources to the things they can control.

19. You engage in active problem-solving.

Mentally strong people don't dwell on the problem — instead, they create solutions.

20. You're open to learning more from all that surrounds you.

Mentally strong people are constantly learning from their circumstances and the people they encounter every day. 

21. You work on your weaknesses, rather than masking them.

While many people work hard to disguise their vulnerabilities, mentally strong people invest their energy into improving their shortcomings.
SOURCE - YAHOO

Science agrees that 9 am starts are torture

We’ve always known it but now it’s official; starting work at 9 am is tantamount to torture, and a sleep expert has the science to prove it.

Dr Paul Kennedy, from the Sleep and Circadian Institute at Oxford University, believes that the traditional 9 to 5 is creating a sleep deprived society, and it’s not just a problem in Britain.

“This is an international issue. Everybody is suffering and they don’t have to,” Dr Kennedy told Yahoo News. “Sleep deprivation is a torture. Thirty days without sleep and you die. It has about the same effect as not eating.”

The problem with the 9am start, says Kennedy, is that the body’s natural pattern – our circadian rhythm – doesn’t fit with the typical working day.

Most people actually can’t focus on their work properly until a few hours later, and the constant cycle of sleep depriving early starts means that we don’t actually catch up on that deficit until the age of 55.

“It is hugely damaging on the body’s systems because you are affecting physical, emotional and performance systems in the body,” says Kennedy.

“Your liver and your heart have different patterns and you’re asking them to shift two or three hours. Staff should start at 10am. You don’t get back to [the 9am] starting point until 55.” 

“Staff are usually sleep-deprived. We’ve got a sleep-deprived society.”

SOURCE - stylist.co.uk

5 things to avoid looking unprofessional

Coming across as unprofessional is the last thing one would want to be. Here are some tips that can help you avoid the same:

- Have you heard of the 'expectation hurts' phrase? That is exactly what would be termed as optimism bias or being unrealistically optimistic. Assuming that there is a lesser chance for one to be at risk than others leads them to believe that they can afford to be more laidback and they often start taking the safe route. This could make one look unprofessional.

- Words matter. While actions speak louder than words, you should still mind your words. Do not use bad words at work place - whether you are using it just like that or are frustrated - it shows employees in a bad light.

- Never hide things at your work place. It is good to be transparent in your communications. That way, you have nothing to hide and your communication with your colleagues and your seniors remains unaffected.

- Do not run away from responsibilities. A responsible employee is not only the most sought after, but also tends to be more successful at his/her work. On the contrary, do not overpromise, too, if you cannot accomplish it.

- Leering could make you look like a creep and interactions with those from the opposite sex become difficult. You'll be in the radar for all the wrong reasons, of course.

SOURCE - TOI

30 and single? Who cares!

A recent report says that if you are 30 and still single, you need to change your dating patterns. We say, turn a deaf ear...
So what if you haven't found anyone worth committing to it yet? And so what, if you've turned 30 and still enjoy being solo. Let alone dating patterns, don't let this change anything since love will find you anyway, even through imperfections. And should anyone make you feel miserable for being single at 30, here are some reasons to make you smile:

THIRTIES ARE THE NEW TWENTIES

Getting married early maybe cool, but for most people these days, 20's are all about getting careers sorted, travelling, enjoying life and getting to know themselves. In fact, a lot of people don't find enough time to date amidst all this (especially fulfilling career goals), so it makes sense if marriage happens after all that, so you have a lot of time to enjoy pure marital bliss.

ये बातें सोचने से बचें, इनसे नहीं मिलता कुछ फायदा

दूसरे आपके बारे में क्या सोच रहे हैं, इस बात के बारे में सोचते हुआ आप अपना पूरा जीवन गुज़ार सकते हैं, लेकिन फायदा कुछ नहीं होगा। आप जहां है, वहीं के वहीं रह जाएंगे। इसलिए दूसरे क्या सोच रहे हैं, इस बात की चिंता से बाहर आने के लिए यहां बताई जा रही कुछ बातों को याद रखें..






SOURCE - http://religion.bhaskar.com/news/JM-SEHE-self-help-tips-about-thinking-5106264-PHO.html?seq=4