They might be the top-notch guys in their professional fields, but going on a date or even finding a date makes them tongue-tied and extremely nervous. If you fall in this category, there is a friendly advice for you...
Interpret her signals correctly
Women are not going to come up to you and ask for your phone number. That's just not the way it works. But, if you know what to look for, she will give you some subtle signals, which are her way telling you "hey buddy, I'm interested in you, come here and talk to me".
The first thing you need to know is this...
Women don't do ANYTHING by accident. If a woman is located at a certain part of the bar or club there is a reason for it. So, the next time you're out, if you notice a woman in your proximity that wasn't there a second ago there's a good chance it's not an accident and she's interested in you.
Another thing to look for is preening or grooming. When a woman notices a guy she's interested in, she'll often unconsciously fix her hair, grab a glance at herself in the mirror, or fix her clothes in some other way.
Go easy and slow
You can't be a wall flower all night and then when you see the girl you got the hots for, go up and approach her and expect things to go great.
So here's what you do. The next time you're going to be at a venue where there are women you might be interested in, before you even consider talking to them or even looking in their direction, start off by talking to some of the other people around you.
Build your skills
A lot of guys approach a woman with the goal in mind of getting her phone number, or getting a date with her, or making her their next girlfriend.
They see how pretty she is and all sorts of things like this go through their heads and they inevitably psyche themselves out.
They become way too outcome dependent. And worst of all, by doing this, they appear too needy to the women and the game is over before it even begins. When you shift your thinking by changing the outcome that you're looking for women will be able to pick up on it. You won't appear needy and you'll inevitably start to become more attractive.
Handle rejection with grace
Most guys make a woman's response to them mean something about them personally. A woman acts bitchy or cold to them and they make it mean something about them as a man.
When a woman "rejects" you, it actually has nothing to do with you. It wasn't YOU she rejected It was just you're approach. You used the wrong particular approach. it's nothing personal. How could it be she doesn't know you from a hole in the wall, right? So be grateful for her feedback whether positive or negative and never take it personal.
Play a game you can win
Overall, the club and bar scene can be pretty intimidating to pick up women. Women go out to these places, and because they're getting hit on all night and because their friends are around, they're ten times more likely to reject a guy who tries to approach them.
If you know what you're doing... there is no other place to meet women as quickly and as easily as Social Networking sites. There are a few reasons for this: Because her friends aren't around watching her, other guys aren't hitting her and she's in the comfort of her own home she's SO much more receptive to you if you say the right thing to her. There is absolutely ZERO chance of ever encountering a face-to-face rejection.
SOURCE- TOI
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